Happiness Project: January – Slow down

I mentioned in one of my previous posts that I wanted to recommence/continue the “happiness project” I was attempting last year.  Part of this was to improve my accountability I think, set goals that I could chip away at, and hopefully improve the chances of their longevity.  This year I want to do the same, only I’m hoping with fewer distractions I will be able to maintain my consistency.

My new years’ resolutions were primarily to get on top of my time for myself, but I would also like to add a few things, like being more mindful of certain things.  So I have decided the month of January would be about making time for me, even if that’s a little time for reading, sitting on the verandah watching the storm (like I did tonight), going for 20180109_2050111202848350.jpga walk, to the gym (as this helps me organise and spend some time with my thoughts), or whatever I feel like doing at the time.  Additionally, I want to be more present.  I have decided that means I need to implement some strategies around my approach to other people, I want to be more patient, calm and on a personal level I want to be more laid back.  This will mean I have to identify when something is making me feel stressed, anxious or impatient, and implementing strategies to manage and de-escalate before I react.  As easy as it sounds, I don’t think it will be that easy.

I have done a lot of reading around anxiety and happiness in the last 6 months or more.  I read Gretchen’s book “The Happiness Project”, my inspiration for this idea, and the reason I decided to start a diary to track my progress.  I started one last year but it sort of fell away, so this year I want to make regular entries about my plans and progress, a reference for me to look back at.  I was thinking about extending it to writing about my concerns as this seems to help me psychologically, allowing me to deal with things and move forward with a clear and uncluttered headspace.  I also thought this would help to identify triggers and look at how I have dealt with things, enabling me to make plans for following months or even projects if this gets that far.

I have been reading Sarah Wilson’s “First, We Make the Beast Beautiful”.  Although I wouldn’t have thought I suffer from anxiety, after reading a little over half of the book I am looking at some of the experiences she describes and wondering if I don’t have a little in some areas myself.  I find this realisation has enabled me to identify some areas I struggle with, and I am hoping to address them this year.  I find the book interesting, and I am learning quite a lot about human interactions and reactions, something I have been interested in more recently.  I want to be nicer, be less stressed, more patient and relaxed, therefore I have been reading books to provide me with some more insight, the only way I know how to learn about things.  I don’t do as well watching, searching on youtube, I enjoy reading, and learning from the research and others experience.  This is the first step for me in making changes I am yearning for, I need to identify what they are, and realise what could help me manage them.

If I have learned anything, it’s that we can’t change other people.  Well, we can I guess a little, it’s what happens in a defacto relationship or a marriage.  We combine our lifestyles, we share an existence, that requires one or both of us to change, either to the other person’s ideas or to meet in the middle.  For instance, I never ate breakfast for such a long time, I usually have brunch and dinner, however, when I met my (now) husband I decided it was rude to cook him breakfast and not eat with him, I didn’t want to make him feel uncomfortable.  So I started having breakfast.   I’m sure that was not the main cause, but I ended up gaining 6kgs.  I have since found a way that he can eat his 3 solid meals a day and I have gone back to my usual routine, but I made the effort to change for him, it didn’t work out for me, now he makes his breakfast and me a coffee first thing in the morning, then we have lunch and dinner together.  Additionally, he was against cats, he hated them, said he would never have one and thought they were horrible creatures.  He ended up buying me one, which he grew to love, and recently he decided we needed a cat to keep our original cat company, and now we have 3 new kittens.  I know those examples sound like he’s always changing to what I want to do, but additionally, he is a mad fisherman and I will make the time to pack a picnic, chairs, blankets whatever it takes to go with him because he wants the company.  We work together, we have both compromised and find it works well to combine our routines.

Which leads me to January’s rules:

  • Take at least 20-30mins daily where possible to be present – this will assist with patients
  • While every action has a reaction – reassess, and ask yourself is this important?  What was the intention here?  Take a breath and then respond.
  • Do something kind
  • SLOW DOWN! Stop rushing, take the time, and don’t overbook your time
  • Take time out for a social appointment – aim for once a week.  Anything from a date night/brunch with the partner, to a coffee with a friend
  • Spend less time on social media

 

These goals might be ambitious for the first month, but I believe some of them are important to others.  I want to spend less time on facebook, on my phone and more time being present with people.  I want to be less cranky, impatient and rushed, so I think engaging in things that make me present are a great idea, being with friends, exercising and reading/sewing is a great way to try to start chipping away at this idea.  ‘/

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New Years’ Resolution #1: Making the Fundamentals Fun!

Although it’s only the first week of the year, here in Australia it’s only the 3rd day of the new year, and I am doing my best so far to make the most of it.  I decided this year was going to mark the beginning of regaining our balance, after three years of my husband studying, two years of my study, saving for weddings, and a house, we are finally in the position we have been working so hard to get in.  Therefore, we have decided we need to find a happy medium between work, home, friends and I know I need to start checking in with myself a little more.

While there are those out there with new goals for saving money, losing weight and improving work life, I want to take a new approach to balancing my time and making some for me.  I decided the best way for me to make a good start is to get organised while I’m on my Christmas holidays, to spend my last two weeks getting into a good routine and getting myself organised.

The first goal for these holidays at home (since we got home from the family holiday), is to get the house in order, while not losing my time for me.  Yesterday my husband and I went around and did a surface blitz around the house, today I finally did something I’ve been meaning to do, clean up the kitchen.  This sounds like an unnecessary project, but I have a horrible pantry OCD issue.  I have been spending years getting my kitchen organised, and every time I feel like I’m making progress, I take a step back, I look around and feel like the pantry still looks untidy.  My husband says I need to forget

about it, cupboards get untidy and I should just close the door and pretend it doesn’t exist.  However, I can’t do this, I get more and more frustrated when I go to cook something and there are five things in my way, I’m knocking things over to something from the back of the pantry, and all I want to do is drop everything and sort it out.  So, today this was my first accomplishment of the year.  I started by trying to move my modular mates (Tupperware – containing staples), and it just went from there, I ended up sorting and rearranging half the kitchen.  I’m happy with it so far, but we’ll see how long it lasts that way.  The next goal is my sewing cupboard and our spare wardrobe that has become a dumping ground for a few things we weren’t sure what to do with when we moved in November.  I am hoping by the end of the holidays to get through the cupboards and with some help sort out and tidy up the garage, that will take care of everything we can in this house, until we can do some renovations and additions later in the year.

With a clean and tidy house, with everything where it should be, I would like to get on top of our routine.  This year we will both have different work rosters which will make it hard to coordinate things like housework and dinners, therefore I plan to get back to the old pattern.  So next week I will begin planning meals; all in meals we can freeze and reheat for when we are on alternate shifts, and meals I can cook when I’m home, even it means putting his aside for another night.  We need breakfast options available for him to have on the go if need be for when he has morning shifts, as I don’t eat breakfast, lunch options which can always be dinner leftovers, and this year I want to start looking at making healthy, sugar-free snacks.  Speaking of dietary options, we are also in the process of cutting back our sugar content for our new sugar-free adventure with Sarah Wilson.  I have been finding it hard to be prepared at the moment, but we have only been doing this for two days, so we are still learning about what we can eat and what we should avoid, while the book recommends not going cold turkey, we have been trying to avoid it where we can, with the exclusion of alcohol at the moment because I’m on holidays but I have been making better choices.

Exercise.  I feel like every other person setting their own goals for the year talking about diet and exercise, but I am feeling good that we have made it back to the gym, and not just for our personal training sessions.  I would like to include some outdoor activities, hiking, running or walking, in addition to yoga for my headspace, so I plan to start some home yoga tomorrow to try and prepare my flexibility and strength for a studio or gym class.  I also have a plan for returning to pole dancing but the term hasn’t restarted yet, but that is on the to-do list.

The most important part of my plan is to make more time for things I enjoy, and to
be in my own headspace, take the time to slow down and relax, something I haven’t been doing for the last few years.  I was talking with a friend today about how we were both planning to try and make an opportunity at least weekly to meet up with friends for social catch-ups, our plan is to be less busy, to go to work, come home, do the house things and catch up with our friends or in my instance read a book, head to yoga or go for a walk and relax.  The most important part.

I feel as though I have been spending at least the last two years rushing around, living on high and constant levels of adrenaline, it’s affecting my sleep, the frequency of my headaches, my level of patience and of course my stress levels.  So as usual, and in accordance with my “self-help” nature I have been taking at least the end of the day for me, to read a book and have a drink on the balcony in the summer breeze, watch a movie with hubby, pet our kitties (pets are meant to be good for our mental health), I’m taking on some breathing exercises at bedtime before I get to sleep, so alleviate the fear or getting to sleep in case I wake up with a migraine.

 

Take home message:

Make time for fun as well as routine, and don’t lose sight of the important things.  While feeding ourselves and getting in some exercise is high on the importance list at this time of the year, we can prepare and set goals as long as we check in with ourselves from time to time.

 

The trick, however, is not to do all this while it’s easy like it is right now because I’m on holidays, but to maintain it, and then move it into the work routine.  Make it all business as usual.  They say it takes twenty-one days to form new habits, so I have to make it past the end of my holidays just to make it stick, that will be the hard part.

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Here’s to New Years Resolutions!

It’s that time of the year again where we start to make our new year plans for what we hope to achieve.  More money, lose weight, new jobs or less work are all sounding like familiar new years’ resolutions.  We have had quite a year in 2017, even more if you look at our last two years.  We got married, went on our honeymoon, I have worked overtime every fortnight for at least 18months, we moved into a share house to save money while we were applying for a home loan, we had a lot of issues going back and forth with the lender asking for more and more documentation, and then we bought a house, moved again, my husband finished his second university degree, and now he has secured a new graduation position for this year.

I guess you could say this is my token new years’ resolution post.  But I haven’t made the traditional goals for myself, I have gained weight over Christmas and of course, I plan to get rid of it, but that’s not the goal.  Our new years’ resolutions need to be more than a final product, but rather should be a list of the things we will do to get there.  If we don’t have a defined plan of achievable goals we will always be disappointed in our ability to set ourselves up to fail.

nyeCollectively my husband and I have decided we want to be healthier because we have had quite a bad year, living in share accommodation saw our diets take a back step, and ever since moving house we haven’t been able to get our routine back, now we are planning to rectify some pathology abnormalities and generally improve our intake and fitness.  I have allowed my exercise regime to somewhat fall apart, the only time I get to the gym these days is when we have plans with the personal trainer and I know I need to go so I don’t let someone else down.  For the most part, I guess the goal is to get our routine back, be better prepared and organised enough to manage meals, laundry and life as a shift worker again.

So what are our resolutions for this year?  I like to steer clear of the traditional ones, but this year I have a holistic approach.  We have most of the things we were working towards now, and therefore our goals are changing as we yearn for health and more quality time.  I have broken my resolutions/goals for the coming year into categories;

  • Personal
  • Health
  • Family
  • Work

Personal development for me this year is to have more time in my own headspace.  I have been dealing with intense stress levels for a long period of time, working full time and over time more often than not, studying full time and trying to maintain a routine of sorts.  I have been getting a lot of migraines lately and have been reading a lot about the benefits of meditation, so my plan is to give myself some time to be quiet in my own head, to get to yoga, read a book, do some sewing, anything that’s just for me at least once a week.  I want to get back to working on a 12 month “happiness project”, whereby I can chip away at little things I can change to make the most of my quality time with myself, friends and family, while hopefully being more productive and spend less time doing things that leave me feeling disappointed in all the time I waste on them…  Like facebook, and watching tv, plus I would like to spend more time on my blog, something else that really helps my headspace.  Healthwise, I plan to get back to regular exercise, meaning back to the gym 3 times a week, regular yoga practice (which overlaps with the personal goal but sometimes these things can benefit you in more than one area), and we be awesomeare embarking on a new “diet” of types, planning to cut out as much sugar as we can, eat healthier and a lot of that comes down to me being organised and motivated.  We bought the “I Quit Sugar” cookbooks by Sarah Wilson, so my plan over the coming week is to have a read and get started.  My family goal is for my husband and I is to schedule more time together, to go out for brunch together, or even just cook dinner together, sit out on our patio or balcony and have a cup of tea at the end of the day.  Our rosters are going to clash quite a lot this year so I think this will be the hardest to coordinate but if we plan ahead we should be able to fit a few hours in a few times a week, and we would like to go on a holiday later in the year.  Last of all is work.  Hubby would like me to drop back my hours, but I would only spend the time at home wondering what to do with myself as we don’t have any kids, and the financial gain could help us get ahead.  Instead, I won’t be putting my hand up for so much over time, and using my mornings and evenings to catch up on everything I missed out on while studying for the last 2 years.  I plan to get a subscription to a journal, work on my professional development, and negotiate with my manager about working towards becoming a clinical nurse specialist.

While that all sounds quite long and detailed, I have sacrificed sharing the little goals I plan to utilise to achieve all those resolutions, but the key to maintaining your goals is to make them achievable, don’t try to do it all at once, have a plan and reassess.  If you don’t have an evaluation process how will you know if you are making progress before you get to the end of the year, and if you see progress it will help you to maintain motivation.  I am constantly surprised when I talk to people about weight loss, mention my loss of 40kgs and get that amazed response from them before they ask me how I did it.  I had a lot of trouble prior, but in the end, I had to make achievable changes, and the progress made me see the benefits of my hard work, and motivated me to continue.  Changes are more easily achieved when we chip away at them and take them one step at a time.

To start the year, I have spent the day watching Sex and the City chilling on the lounge with my computer, and finished the evening on the balcony on my blog searching for a summer breeze, while my hubby heads off to the movies to watch the new Star Wars movie.  I plan to make the most of my following week, with 12 days left before I go back to work, I plan to be quite refreshed.  After all, what are the holidays for?

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Finally Back Online

It has been a while since the last time I was able to post.  We have now moved house, finally got an internet connection after about 3-4 weeks, and looking forward to getting a normal routine back.

We have made a few new additions to our family, we already had a cat, but now we have 3 kittens as well, which apparently makes me a crazy cat lady.  But, at least there’s never a dull moment and they can entertain each other.  

 

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This was taken after getting the first 2 kittens, now there is a third. We don’t have any group photos of all 4 just yet.

 

I am looking forward to getting our routine back, after this last week of anarchy.  Back to meal planning and having a week or so of “business as usual” before we go away for a few days for Christmas.  What I am most looking forward to is getting back after Christmas and having 2 weeks of being in our new home, to do normal things…  Cook dinner, go for a walk, read a book, write or just watch tv if I want to, in addition to hanging out with our friends and catching up with people we haven’t seen in a while.

I am looking forward to what next year brings us, I feel as though next year is now a clean slate, not really knowing what it will bring for us.  My husband is starting a new position in a new career, we will both be nursing on shift work so hopefully, we will still see each other.  We have a few things we would like to do around the house, but mostly we are looking forward to having no study, and no commitments outside of work hours.  This is our year of enjoyment…  Hopefully!

In the meantime we have Christmas.

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Countdown: 7 Days Until Moving Day

I have struggled to keep up with my blog this year, between uni, moving house, working overtime and now moving again.  But, things should settle soon, we are moving for the last time for as long as I can put it off, we finally bought our first house.

As you can imagine after all the suffering, stress and running around we are finally moving in next week.  So this week has been a week of acquiring boxes, packing boxes and looking around the house wondering what else I can pack, and make lists about what needs to be taken, what days to pack certain things that need to wait until closer to the day.  Moving can be hard enough, but I also have to work this week, we have a family commitment on the weekend 2hrs away from where we live, and somehow we have to finish the process while maintaining business as usual.  So, as usual, I have had to make myself a plan.

Looking at this logically I have 7 days until moving day.  In that time I have to work, movingspend one day on travel, finish packing, take as many loads of boxes across as I can to the new house to lighten the load on moving day.  I like to be as organised as I can be, so I have made a meal plan for the week, a plan of attack for packing, and a plan for our ongoing “business as usual” week.

Day 1 of 7: (today)
Day off (no work)
Organise phone, internet and foxtel
Pack kitchen supplies that won’t be needed

Day 2 of 7: (Wednesday)
Work 7am – 3:30pm
Final inspection before settlement
Meal plan – Indian chicken curry
Continue packing boxes/go for a walk

Day 3 of 7: (Thursday)
Work 7am – 3:30pm
Settlement (YAY)
Collect keys
Take a load of boxes to new house, unpack them
Pack more boxes
Meal plan – Mexican (burritos)

Day 4 of 7: (Friday)
Work 7am – 3:30pm
Personal training session
Take a load of boxes
Meal plan – leftovers

Day 5 of 7 (Saturday)
Day off (no work)
Take load of boxes on way to family commitment

Day 6 of 7 (Sunday)
Day off (no work)
Take van full of boxes to lighten the load
Unpack as able
Meal plan – leftovers

Day 7 of 7 (Monday)
Day off (no work)
Lunch with friend
Take a load over
Prepare all furniture and boxes – organise them into one place in preparation for moving day on Tuesday
Call energy company and arrange power
Call insurance company and ensure all details are correct for moving day

I think the thing I have struggled with the most throughout this whole experience has been looking around the house for what we have left, knowing that some of it we can’t mov housepack yet because we still need it, and feeling like we haven’t made any progress.  I have been out shopping looking for storage solutions to better organise my new pantry, I will be making posts on our progress as we move in.  I like to have things organised, and I plan to share our ideas and strategies, in organising our kitchen, planning our meals once we get settled since my husband and I are on a diet to help lower cholesterol (something I struggle with in the aim to keep meals interesting).  We have plans for some things we want to fix around the house; we need to get a covering over the back patio, we are getting air conditioning installed, a dishwasher installed, I am super excited to get my sewing room organised, start a veggie patch, attempt a verticle herb garden, and a personal cookbook sorted for my thermomix and Tupperware pressure cooker recipes.

Keep an eye out as I plan to get more organised into next year, I want to post more recipes, meal planning tips, and general household organising as I create my new routine.  My husband is starting a new job after finishing uni, we will both be working shift work, and most probably not be on the same shifts, so I need to have meals planned, be organised enough to stay on top of the laundry, cleaning and keep some time to do some things for myself that I haven’t been able to do for two years since I commenced my post-graduate studies that I just finished this year.  I have a knack for managing to get myself into commitments that leave me stressed, time poor and without time to relax and do things for myself.  My husband and I have decided that next year is going to be our year, to do some things for us, after having a very hard 3 years while we both studied, while we saved to get married, and then saved to buy a house.  I know we all make new years resolutions, but mine are highly achievable and revolve around getting back to things that bring me happiness; reading, working on my blog, sewing, playing the piano keyboard, and I have the garden project to work towards.  We also want to make ourselves a home and spend some quality time together and with our friends and family.  Moving house is a tiny step in the great picture, but it is a process and we want the day to run as smoothly as we can.

Updates to follow.

What has worked for you in the process of moving?  I have labelled my boxes and I’m trying to get everything organised, that’s the best we can do at the moment I think.

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What I Am Learning About Happiness!

After reading the happiness project I am trying to find ways I can improve my life and bring in happiness.  What it takes to begin with, is the realisation that we don’t need to find what the next adventure is to be happy.  No matter what we do, the next thing we think will make us happy is not the achievement of happiness we are looking for.

Happiness CAN be found on a holiday, but why is that?  I consider holiday happiness to be circumstantial, we are happy while on holidays because we are doing things we enjoy, we have no stresses of work, no concerns about “business as usual” issues like meal planning, budgeting and fitting in our daily duties and housework.  A holiday provides us with a break from all of that, personally, the idea of a holiday doesn’t excite me like it does for other people.  If I have a holiday planned I like to take extra leave from my job so I can prepare to go, and have some down time when I get home to catch up on all the things I left behind, and the extra work I created while being away (such as the onslaught of washing we created).  Others think happiness is not working.

Others think happiness is not working.  Retiring or dropping back at work, but what happinesswould you really do with your time, if you get there so early?  Some people are happy to be homemakers, they keep themselves busy, take a trip every now and then.  Some like to create themselves a routine of activities, while others have a dream of retiring to travel, something that costs money you may not have if you retire early and live a long life.  Personally, all the things I enjoy can be expensive, and for a lot of the time I don’t know what to do with my spare time, and I love my job.  I like to know I have something I need to do in the morning, I need a reason to get out of bed, I question what am I doing with my life and I need to feel I am achieving something.  Reflecting on this idea is what has made me realise happiness isn’t something we achieve by working less, or retiring to a life of travel, or even having children (while children can bring people joy – our mental health and state of mind can have a positive or a negative impact on children).  We need to find our happiness in business-as-usual existence.

We need to spend some time thinking about what we enjoy.  What do we like to do?  Why don’t we have time to do it?  And what can we do to make time, and actually be present and realise when we are happy.

Since reflecting on these things I have come to a few conclusions about myself.

  1. I find happiness in achievements.  This can be something as simple as finishing a crochet project I set for myself, I always feels disappointed when I make something for someone and have to give it away, because it is the product of all that time and effort I put into it.
  2. I like to read.  I have always loved reading since I was a child, I used to read fiction, but since I started nursing I have realised I like to learn about things.  I read biographies, books on neuroplasticity, and my husband thinks I like self-help books, but I read non-fiction books about things that interest me.  I guess then my opinions are based on my own knowledge, not just something I saw on Facebook.
  3. I like writing…  I know I’m not very good about it, I don’t get amazing grades at uni, my husband read my first essay when I started this post graduate course and he told me my writing was bad, and he has no idea how I got my degree.  But with the blog I guess I like to share, and I think we all have the capacity to influence each other, to encourage and to realise we share similar struggles.  I like sitting in the sun with my laptop, I like sharing things that inspire me, and funnily enough, my husband recently told me he thought I should write a recipe book to help people make nutritious, all-in meals that are easy to prepare.
  4. Which leads me to cooking.  I like to make food that tastes good, that’s easy to prepare and is comforting to sit down to at the end of the day.  I like trying new things and planning ahead for the week.  I also like the satisfaction of seeing others enjoy the food I’ve prepared.
  5. I enjoy exercise, although I am not always motivated to do this, I always appreciate it once I get in and get started.  I guess it’s the endorphins we get from exercise, but I believe it helps our mental health too.  I love yoga, but I have been slack lately, and getting started is my downfall.
  6. Sadly, no one I know understands this, but I love to learn.  Like I mentioned about in number 2, I actually enjoy studying.  My course stresses me out because of the time restraints and me working full time (most of the time fitting in some overtime), but I really enjoy the achievement of learning something new, of getting a decent mark (despite my poor writing) and the act of writing I guess you could say.
  7. Socialising.  As much as I like to be a home body, sitting on the couch with my laptop and a cosy blanket, like anyone I need socialising.  I like to catch up with friends, go out for brunch, and be in the company of other people.  For this reason, I enjoy nursing.  On my first prac I couldn’t believe I could get paid to talk to people all day, I realise that isn’t all I get to do, but I love that I can talk to people all day.  There are days where I have personality clashes, where I might be in a bad mood and don’t’ feel like talking and maintaining the customer service level of interaction that is expected, but I meet some really lovely people, and the gratitude we get some patients who appreciate every little thing you do for them, that someone else might take for granted.

I won’t bore you any further (if in fact, you read through all of that), but I challenge sunhappinessanyone who thinks they are looking for happiness to have a think about what makes you happy.  There are things we do every day that we do because we enjoy it, we don’t have to rely on others to provide our happiness, we don’t need a holiday, or a bigger house, or more stuff.  What we might need is just to get outside in the sunshine, to meet a friend for coffee or attempt one of the things on your list that you would describe as enjoyment.  Plan to do at least one of these things each day, even something as small as having a moment to read, meditate, and take the time to acknowledge that you are enjoying something, feel what it’s like to be happy, and stop looking forward at what you think will make you happy.  Because, that chase will never come to an end.

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We’ve Moved! Beginning Chronicles of 1 Marriage and 2 Bachelors

My husband and I have moved house now.  We have settled in relatively well I guess you could say.  We finally got the internet back on, which has been novel not to rely on using our phones as wifi hotspots when they barely have a reception as it is.  The move has not gone without its hiccups, we almost didn’t fit some of the furniture into the house, we filled the storage space we were given, but it’s all in and we are all co-existing just fine.

I finally have a few days off in a row and I decided to do something for me.  I’ve been so tired moving and working, after just having had a chest infection that seems to have taken me at least two weeks to get over I thought it was time to do something I haven’t had the chance to do in months.  So today I am burning a candle, I finished the edge of a crochet rug I have been working on for over a year now, (I haven’t touched it since last winter), and this afternoon I am heading for a run, we’re having homemade pie for dinner tonight and I am hoping in the next few days to finish off a cot quilt I started months ago.  As much as that sounds all very busy, they are all things I like to do, things that I find beneficial for my mental health and it gets me away from a screen.  Who knows there might even be time later on if I wanted to read a book, after my 13hr sleep last night I feel full of energy for a change, not dragging myself through the motions.

Our existence in the house is far from perfect, although it has been good with everyone pitching in for meals, I have definitely cooked less than I usually would, but the house isn’t as clean and tidy as I would like it.  Living with my husband and two bachelors, we have some work cut out for us.  My husband and I like to live in a cosy, warm and tidy environment, but since I have been working and unpacking for the last two weeks I haven’t had the opportunity to get some things done, my husband has been great however, staying on top of the washing that was piling up (we only wash for ourselves), and staying on top of the bathroom and the dishes.  I need to find the time for a full house clean up.

Most of all I am looking forward to getting creative again, I have a baby shower coming up for twins and I want to make some patchwork quilts for them.  I would have liked to crochet a rug each but I just don’t have the time with only 2 weeks up my sleeve I don’t think even I could manage to pull that off.  Keeping in mind the uni semester recommences soon and I have to decide if I’m going to continue or differ for 6 months.  I have plans to catch up with my piano keyboard, sewing machine and curl up with some books, that’s all I”ve been dreaming about since the semester finished.  I will post an update with my progress with the quilt and home cooked pie tonight if I remember.

I wasn’t sure how I would cope in a house of boys, I have never lived in a share house and so far I must say things aren’t going too badly.  The only real issue at this stage is the hot water system, as it isn’t keeping up with demand, something we are working on fixing.  In the meantime, I have been planning things with the gym to shower there, and friends have offered when we have been stuck, as it’s winter here I really can’t do a cool shower, maybe summer would be ok.  We all have different routines which means we aren’t all in each others hair all the time, my husband and I are shift workers so that always changes, hte other guys – one works Monday – Friday day work, and the other only works a few nights a week but stays up quite late and sleeps through the day.  Meaning we try to be quiet down that end of the house, but also a good reason to go out for the day.  For the most part I think we all pitch in together, we do the things we can see need to be done, and above all we all get along which I think is just as important.  The house would make an interesting tv show I think, not that I condone reality tv!

 

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