Where have the traditions gone?
Eating meals at the dining table as a family, comfort food in winter, home cooked food, manners and homemade items.
I know times have changed somewhat, women no longer get married to have babies and stay at home to look after them, while cooking all meals from scratch. Now both parents are equal, they both go to work, they both prepare dinner and look after the kids. I worry that things like cooking from scratch are getting lost. Sometimes I’m guilty of this too for convenience.
Life is so busy these days we’re rushing to work, to pick up children, do the grocery shopping, cooking dinner, having breakfasts and lunches prepared and stay on top of the housework and somehow manage to socialise with friends and family. Where do we get the balance to do all of this. I struggle enough and I don’t have kids… I try to make our butter from scratch, all of our dinners from scratch, have healthy options for breakfast and lunch and snacks.
With modern day lives I think it’s important to keep dinner times for family, technology for our own down time (not for social situations, not for the dinner table), cooking our food from scratch to be healthy, to nourish our families. I recently read something on a blog about minimalism about how the author liked to wash the dishes by hand rather than use the dishwasher because he liked the act of doing the cleaning, I think sometimes we have to make the most of the menial tasks, bring some mindfulness into your life, it’s good for your mental health, and it’s good for having some time to yourself. I like to leave my phone/ipod in my gym bag these days and hit the treadmill and cross-trainer without them. It gives me time to think about things, to zone out and think about nothing, and I also find the act of pushing myself until I’m exhausted also helps me make my mind stop. Just as much as my yoga practice helps, well not as much as yoga does, but it definitely is a cheap therapy.
Housewives always did things by hand, they found it meaningful until we starting trying to find shortcuts, I think it’s time to get back to basics. Enjoy your time, make the most of what you do, be mindful and enjoy! The manual labour of cooking, housework and exercise isn’t something to be left or forgotten, when there’s no time for ourselves why can’t we be mindful an enjoy these things. Take a new perspective on them, it might even brighten your day. I enjoy my gym and yoga time these days, it feels great to check out for a while, and just do something you don’t have to think about. With so many counts of mental illness these days, either it was an awareness issue, or we need to look at environmental and nurturing factors.
There’s something to be said for traditions and values.