This post is a little late, I have been chipping away at it since late December, but life kept getting in the way. So here it is!
My new years’ resolution this year was to have more balance. Seemingly simple enough, but in a household with 4 cats, and 2 shift workers, although we don’t have any children, we have enough trouble with the basics.
Hubby is moving to a new area at work, which requires him to study, and I am planning to go back to university part-time to finish my masters’ degree while I continue to work full-time. Therefore, being organised in our house is high on our priority list. I had plans to catch up with friends and family more often this year, and make time for ourselves as we seem to either do one or the other.
I ordered a new diary for this year after having searched nearby shops unable to find something I liked at the end of 2018. I came across a website called Bullet Planner (I am in no way affiliated with them, I just really like this product), I found I could customise the cover and choose the style of the diary I had. It includes an array of lists from Christmas presents, birthday presents and birth dates, to goals for the year. It got me thinking about our goals and resolutions, and made me wonder if our idea of what we want the year to be like really looks the same at the end? Does it look the same meaning nothing has changed or does it look the same as what we had envisioned? This diary has made me think about my personal goals, the goals my husband and I have as a couple, the things we would like to change and the experiences we want to share. It has given me ideas I never usually think about so early, seemingly a great start to being organised this year.
As I listed birthdays, health and fitness goals, and things we want to do around the house I realised I’m already making new years’ resolutions. The trick to goals and achievement isn’t about the goal itself, but about the process you implement, the dedication and determination you have in making it a reality, and all the little things you do to chip away at it. Don’t make them too big, unachievable, or expect that because you want to lose weight a diet will be sufficient. Some goals are a daily challenge, but as I have just done with regards to my achievements last year, look back at your progress. Do this before you make new goals for this year, don’t focus on what you haven’t done, but rather on what you have done. If you’re saving for something, what do you have? It doesn’t matter if you haven’t saved the deposit for a house yet, that is a big commitment and takes longer for some than it does for others, but what progress have you made already? Not only can you do this to see your path to progress but you can also look at this and ask “why didn’t that work”? Use the past year to guide the new things you will attempt to create change with next year. I like making a big laundry list of all the things I want to achieve, then look at it and plan them, prioritise the things you want to pay off, make a list of what you want to get done this year, next year and the year after. This gives you a sense of control, hope, accomplishment, achievement and gratification. It helps me to write about these things in a diary so I don’t have to bug my husband with it, and I still manage to get it off my chest.
My personal goals for this year are about taking time out for me, creating new habits which is something I talk about a lot but find it really hard to put into practice.
- I want to make time to read for pleasure (something I have been really good at this year)
- Have a regular yoga practice
- Get back to a pole class
- Spend some time journalling when I need to clear my head
- Take the time out to organise my week – meal planning, cooking, grocery shopping (something I have been failing at for quite a while)
- Set clear study boundaries (I am planning to finish my post graduate studies)
- Save for something big – make a regular savings deposit each fortnight
- Allocate tasks to share the load
I think it’s funny how as you get older and hit certain milestones your priorities change. Life for us is about enjoyment, not collecting material possessions, but instead having financial freedom, enjoyable experiences and a sense of security. All things we associate with a stress-free existence. They become more realistic, and no more wishing we were retired millionaires! Although, I may have bought a lottery ticket for the week, just incase.
I would like to lose weight like the rest of us, save money and be in less debt. It seems to be the downfall of this generation, less exercise, more convenience food and spending money we don’t have yet. The only way to rectify this is the make sustainable changes. It’s easy to keep up the act while we see progress but how do you sustain it, that’s the real challenge. I lost 42kgs about 6years ago, but the real challenge has been maintaining it, it’s a lifestyle change, the same as any other sustainable goal. I hate to be that person that tries to sound upbeat, motivated and hopeful for the new year, but after looking at our achievements and progress last year, I can see some other things we could have accomplished and would like to attempt to make them a reality for the end of this year.