Why don’t we see what we have right in front of us, before it’s all gone?
As we look down the barrel of 10 months on a very limited income next year, and possibly something similar when I go back depending on how we can coordinate two shift work rosters, I have been thinking about the little things we might like to do as a family, the things we did as kids that we completely overlook now. Which led to me realising how generations these days don’t take the time to appreciate the little things in life anymore. We see life through the lens of a camera, yet we don’t have many photos around the house, we have so much stuff but we don’t spend any time at home, and we travel but we don’t appreciate the outdoors. We look but do we see. We hear but we don’t listen. No wonder there’s such a movement for being more present and mindful. We need to speak because we have something to say, and listen because someone else has something to say, that might just be valuable. We need to go back to having conversations, rather than listening to the sound of our own voice.
I have been thinking about how busy I always am lately. I know I read all the time about how we are only as busy as we make ourselves, but no matter what I do I find I still feel as though I’m rushing around. I make at least 1 day a fortnight for me, and because I work all afternoon shifts I often feel as though I am always meal prepping in the mornings before work. I see other women who somehow have the motivation to get up earlier to make more of their day, but is that really that effective if they are losing sleep at the other end? Which makes me wonder… Is there really a perfect balance of work/home/rest?
In my ever changing and developing attempt to make more balance I have decided there are a few changes I wouldn’t mind trying. Since I have people always telling me the scheduled 17 days I’m planning to have off before the baby is “due” isn’t enough, and that I need to make the most of that time as it will be my last opportunity to be “alone”, I wondered why I can’t take regular time out to do that now?
Next weeks’ challenge:
- Take at least 30mins out each morning before work to sit and have a coffee, enjoy the outdoors or read a magazine
- Take 1 whole day a fortnight (some weeks I only get 1 whole day off) to wind down, rest, relax
- Make a list of things to do during days off so I don’t spend half the day trying to decide what to do with myself
- Get outside more – picnics with hubby, walks around the lake/beach
- Do some exercise regularly – I often leave this as a last priority but I think it would make all the difference in my energy levels
In order to make change, we have to implement a change in behaviours somewhere. For the most part my goals are just to make more time for my head and body to wind down and relax. I want to spend less time watching tv, worrying about things and more time getting outside and doing all the things we used to do as a family when we were kids that seem to have been lost over time. Something as simple as a picnic crosses off so many of these goals, it gets us outside, hubby can go fishing, I can read, go for a walk, or just take some time out. I think there isn’t enough value placed on simple things like going somewhere nice to have a picnic as a family, be in each others’ company, and enjoying a change in atmosphere. Even just interacting during dinner with no technology, sharing what we’ve been up to, what is happening with us at work or from day to day, I worry we are all losing that conversation and this is something we want to encourage with our new family. There are so many things we can do with friends or as a family that don’t cost us a fortune, invest time rather than money.
On that note, I’ve decided to put off the groceries to sit on my balcony with a magazine or some crocheting. I can do the groceries tomorrow while hubby goes fishing.