It’s that time of the year again where we start to make our new year plans for what we hope to achieve. More money, lose weight, new jobs or less work are all sounding like familiar new years’ resolutions. We have had quite a year in 2017, even more if you look at our last two years. We got married, went on our honeymoon, I have worked overtime every fortnight for at least 18months, we moved into a share house to save money while we were applying for a home loan, we had a lot of issues going back and forth with the lender asking for more and more documentation, and then we bought a house, moved again, my husband finished his second university degree, and now he has secured a new graduation position for this year.
I guess you could say this is my token new years’ resolution post. But I haven’t made the traditional goals for myself, I have gained weight over Christmas and of course, I plan to get rid of it, but that’s not the goal. Our new years’ resolutions need to be more than a final product, but rather should be a list of the things we will do to get there. If we don’t have a defined plan of achievable goals we will always be disappointed in our ability to set ourselves up to fail.
Collectively my husband and I have decided we want to be healthier because we have had quite a bad year, living in share accommodation saw our diets take a back step, and ever since moving house we haven’t been able to get our routine back, now we are planning to rectify some pathology abnormalities and generally improve our intake and fitness. I have allowed my exercise regime to somewhat fall apart, the only time I get to the gym these days is when we have plans with the personal trainer and I know I need to go so I don’t let someone else down. For the most part, I guess the goal is to get our routine back, be better prepared and organised enough to manage meals, laundry and life as a shift worker again.
So what are our resolutions for this year? I like to steer clear of the traditional ones, but this year I have a holistic approach. We have most of the things we were working towards now, and therefore our goals are changing as we yearn for health and more quality time. I have broken my resolutions/goals for the coming year into categories;
Personal development for me this year is to have more time in my own headspace. I have been dealing with intense stress levels for a long period of time, working full time and over time more often than not, studying full time and trying to maintain a routine of sorts. I have been getting a lot of migraines lately and have been reading a lot about the benefits of meditation, so my plan is to give myself some time to be quiet in my own head, to get to yoga, read a book, do some sewing, anything that’s just for me at least once a week. I want to get back to working on a 12 month “happiness project”, whereby I can chip away at little things I can change to make the most of my quality time with myself, friends and family, while hopefully being more productive and spend less time doing things that leave me feeling disappointed in all the time I waste on them… Like facebook, and watching tv, plus I would like to spend more time on my blog, something else that really helps my headspace. Healthwise, I plan to get back to regular exercise, meaning back to the gym 3 times a week, regular yoga practice (which overlaps with the personal goal but sometimes these things can benefit you in more than one area), and we are embarking on a new “diet” of types, planning to cut out as much sugar as we can, eat healthier and a lot of that comes down to me being organised and motivated. We bought the “I Quit Sugar” cookbooks by Sarah Wilson, so my plan over the coming week is to have a read and get started. My family goal is for my husband and I is to schedule more time together, to go out for brunch together, or even just cook dinner together, sit out on our patio or balcony and have a cup of tea at the end of the day. Our rosters are going to clash quite a lot this year so I think this will be the hardest to coordinate but if we plan ahead we should be able to fit a few hours in a few times a week, and we would like to go on a holiday later in the year. Last of all is work. Hubby would like me to drop back my hours, but I would only spend the time at home wondering what to do with myself as we don’t have any kids, and the financial gain could help us get ahead. Instead, I won’t be putting my hand up for so much over time, and using my mornings and evenings to catch up on everything I missed out on while studying for the last 2 years. I plan to get a subscription to a journal, work on my professional development, and negotiate with my manager about working towards becoming a clinical nurse specialist.
While that all sounds quite long and detailed, I have sacrificed sharing the little goals I plan to utilise to achieve all those resolutions, but the key to maintaining your goals is to make them achievable, don’t try to do it all at once, have a plan and reassess. If you don’t have an evaluation process how will you know if you are making progress before you get to the end of the year, and if you see progress it will help you to maintain motivation. I am constantly surprised when I talk to people about weight loss, mention my loss of 40kgs and get that amazed response from them before they ask me how I did it. I had a lot of trouble prior, but in the end, I had to make achievable changes, and the progress made me see the benefits of my hard work, and motivated me to continue. Changes are more easily achieved when we chip away at them and take them one step at a time.
To start the year, I have spent the day watching Sex and the City chilling on the lounge with my computer, and finished the evening on the balcony on my blog searching for a summer breeze, while my hubby heads off to the movies to watch the new Star Wars movie. I plan to make the most of my following week, with 12 days left before I go back to work, I plan to be quite refreshed. After all, what are the holidays for?